Attachment Styles: Anxious x Avoidants.

During dinner tonight, I had a convo with Terry about his knowledge on attachment theories and how he prepared to get his marriage celebrant license. 

For almost the entire of dinner, the convo was just about avoidant x anxious attachments. 

I dissected Remus, his wife correctly, and Olivia (his sister) was either an avoidant or securely attached, to which Terry said Olivia is an avoidant.  

Then he dissected my mother, my brother, and my sis in law.  

Tbh, I had never thought of my brother as anxiously attached and my sis in law as dismissive avoidant. 

I had always known my mother gives out anxious vibes, but never really thought much of my brother or the sis in law. 

We then talked about my dance partner, Francis x his gf, Veron and their push-pull dynamics, and the subtle language he uses as a dismissive avoidant. 

Yes, avoidants have their own language that they use, and unless you are observant, you may miss out on it. 

The rest, I will discuss with Chat GPT.